Virginia wedding

Your engagement…your pictures!


As a photographer I know that we have limits as of what we can do for a bride and groom. Both the bride and the photographer has their own vision about how our pictures should turn out. There is a difference between limitations and control over a photo shoot.

Recently I have had brides coming to me who have used other photographers saying that it was very impersonal and they only took pictures for what seemed like a very short time. The photographer took the lead and didn’t really know the couple. What broke my heart was that these couples all said…”Maybe that’s how it’s supposed to be…”

NO! NO! NO! I had to stop them there… I take pride in my profession and one thing I can tell you is that you can and SHOULD make your engagements personal to the couple. Sometimes as photographers we have to know when to take a step back and let the couple tell you what they want and need.

It is so easy to say no… “No, we can’t get that light. No, we can’t make that picture look like this”. What that does is stomp on the couples ideas. You want a photographer that can compromise! Saying “let’s try” or “maybe we can work with that” lets you know the photographer is willing to work with you!

Ladies, these are your pictures! You want to keep the photographer’s limits in mind but if they are saying no to everything you need to figure out what it is you want. They are going to be at your wedding and that is the day to be fun and creative!!



The author: Angeline Frame

Angeline is the owner/publisher of Virginia Bride Magazine and the show producer for The Greater Virginia Bridal Shows. She has a degree in Public Administration and Psychology from Virginia Commonwealth University. A former model and wedding venue owner- she loves all things wedding , fashion and decorating. In her spare time she likes to write, travel and get new ideas to share with brides.
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