It’s two days after Valentine’s Day, which means there are so many newly engaged Virginia brides out there now! We talked to some of them to ask what are some of the things they want to do first, and weigh in with our own advice.

We asked Jackie Carper of Staunton what the first thing she wants to do is, and her first response was “plan a wedding date”!

Since this is one of the first things newly engaged couples get asked, it’s probably one many of your minds! However, it’s one of the things you don’t want to rush. First try to decide what time of year you’d like to have your wedding, and keep in mind all of the things that will affect your choice. If you are dead set on having peonies in your bouquet, you don’t want to plan for a wedding in October when they are out of season (and therefore more expensive). Keep in mind holidays and birthdays, as you don’t want to accidentally plan your wedding on your future sister-in-law’s birthday. Holidays will also make all hotel rates rise, so keep that in mind for traveling guests.

As for Lauren Holder of Harrisonburg, the first thing on her mind was the rest of her family. “The first thing we did was call our families and close friends, and kept everything off social media for a while, just so we could enjoy our time together with just us and the people closest to us knowing,” Lauren said.

Lauren and Chris
Lauren’s engagement to Chris Neville | Photo by Griffin Harrington


This is an important one! You could have a lot of hurt feelings if your dad finds out about your engagement on Facebook! Make sure to keep things off of social media until the most important people hear directly from you and your fiance. Some couples choose to not post anything, including pictures of the ring, for fear of hurting feelings from those who won’t be invited to the wedding. It’s a personal choice, just make sure your family finds out in a personal, real way. It’s good news, and they want to hear it from you, not their timeline!


Did any of you lovely Virginia brides get engaged on Valentine’s Day? What was one of the first things you wanted to do for your wedding or after hearing the news? Let us know in the comments!

If you got engaged on Valentine’s Day, make sure to come to the Greater Virginia Bridal Show in Richmond on February 22 (this coming Sunday)! You’ll get a great start on your planning, and we hope to see you there!

The author: Beth Wertz

Beth graduated from James Madison University in 2014 with a degree in journalism. Most of her spare time is spent looking at wedding dresses and watching Netflix, hoping to get more ideas for Style Inspirations.